Who Would You Rather Follow?

Admired for her beauty, Jennie Jerome (Winston Churchill's mother) glided through the loftiest social circles. Once, on consecutive nights, she dined with Britain's premier politicians: Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli and his chief rival, William Gladstone. When questioned about her impressions of the two men, Ms. Jerome made the following observation:

"When I left the dining room after sitting next to Gladstone, I thought he was the cleverest man in England. But when I sat next to Disraeli I left feeling that I was the cleverest woman."

Perhaps you know leaders like Gladstone—confident individuals who exude wit, intelligence, and charisma. Whenever you're around them, you cannot help but notice their charm…because they make every effort to parade their brilliance in front of you. However, you would most likely prefer to follow someone like Disraeli, a leader who would rather draw out the best in you than strut his or her personal greatness.

In relationships, be impressed with others instead of trying to make an impression. Throttle back on the urge to make your presence felt, and instead look for ways to esteem those around you. By expressing genuine interest in the people in your life, you'll win friends and gain favour.

Who Would You Rather Follow?