How would you describe your own character? What do we mean when we use that particular word?
If we were to describe someone to you by saying he or she has a fine character, would you know what we mean? Our guess is that you would. You would probably understand that we were talking about moral or ethical strength - what some people call integrity.
But how do you know when someone - even yourself - has good character? Well, for one thing, you can see the evidence. Character is revealed in our actions, in the values that we live by. It begins building in early life, in our family. If we are loved and accepted, if we are consistently treated with respect, we grow up free from the burden of trying to prove our worth, free to develop integrity of character. Schools, churches and workplaces can help build character too - positively or negatively.
We also believe, as do many others, that people also shape their own character. If you would like to do this in a more conscious way, you can start by asking yourself: "What are some qualities I value?" Do they include honesty, compassion, discipline, perseverance, kindness, courage, forgiveness, and enthusiasm? You will think of others, as well. Now, what are some actions you could take which would demonstrate those qualities? What could you do to build these qualities into your own character, so that behaving in these ways becomes second nature?
Character could be defined as, "who you are when no one is looking."
As you think about these things, remember that there is a great deal of information available to help you. Seek it out - and stick with it. You can do it!
